At its core, storytelling and leadership are not about you. They are all about impacting and serving your audience, team, or followers. Today’s guest will help every leader and storyteller check their ego at the door and risk the edge of their own vulnerability in order to become more effective.
Patty is a keynote speaker and best-selling author who inspires audiences to lead with passion and purpose. She is an expert business coach that believes our businesses are not only a way to make money and contribute to our fellow humans but are also a conduit for our soul’s evolution.
How an intuitive or channel can further hone their skills as a speaker.
The importance of checking your ego at the door as a speaker.
What makes a great storyteller.
Patty’s role models in storytelling and leadership.
How to use the persistent rejection of structures to your benefit.
It is human nature to compare ourselves to others, and comparison is often a tool that can serve us well for success. For example, if I want to rank higher in my spin class, by comparing my numbers to the leader board of the other classmates, I push myself a bit harder and perform better. Or, if I compare myself to other guests in an on-camera interview, before I’m about to go on, I observe what works and doesn’t and improve my performance. These are healthy comparison tools. It’s also human nature to have an ego and to experience fear. However, when you live in the dangerous trifecta of ego, fear and comparing yourself to others, you are not only hurting yourself, you are slowing down the process of reaching your highest potential.
As a director, producer and speaker coach, one of my jobs is to observe. I have to be patient with my speakers because they are also in process. I can’t expect perfection out of the gate. I may not love something they are doing — for example they may dramatically emphasize a certain word — but I wait, because they may organically stop. Or they don’t, and that’s when I decide if I’m going to ask them to change it or if it’s grown on me. It’s part of the process, and you cannot rush the process. If you do, I guarantee your ego will show up, closing you off to collaboration, feedback and growth, creating the first part of this dangerous trifecta equation.
If a speaker I’m coaching is still stuck or needs my support, I’ll direct them. Not allowing speakers to have all the answers along the way always creates some fear. It’s scary not being perfect during rehearsal. But here’s the disconnect: Rehearsal is about rehearsing, not being perfect. Uncertainty allows for expansion in the content and in the delivery, so it’s paramount to let go of the fear of it. If you don’t let go of that fear, you have just added the second variable of the trifecta.
Sometimes, the speakers I coach will ask me, “Why is this other speaker booking so many stages? We are the same level of experience, so why is he speaking all over the world?” This question means the final variable of comparison has been added to the trifecta, leading us to nothing good.
When you allow ego, fear and comparison to infiltrate your world, nothing makes sense. And this uncertainty breeds more fear and more comparison, which then feeds that hungry ego even more. You cannot do your best work when you are making it about you.
The trifecta of ego, comparison and fear, not only keeps you stuck, it makes you impatient, frustrated and annoyed. And, more often than not, it takes you off of your own path. I suggest paying attention to this equation at all times.
1. When your ego takes over, remind yourself that your message is what’s important, not you.
2. Instead of comparing your path to another’s, redefine your goals and strengthen your message.
3. Allow the fear to be a healthy part of the process instead of letting it define your choices.
When you begin to trust the process, stay on stage literally and figuratively, and fully embrace your unique point of view, you will become the success you are meant to be. It’s okay to not have all the answers yet. Simply play your scene until it all makes sense. Because if you stay in it, it will.
254 A Great Speaker is Like a Surgeon – Johnny Wimbrey
“A great speaker is like a surgeon: they can cut you open and then sew you back up.” That is one of the many amazing insights you’ll hear from today’s guest, who shares his powerful journey from a scarred past to taking big stages and impacting countless lives today.
Johnny Wimbrey began life in a battered women’s shelter with his single mother, was exposed to drugs by the age of 8, and was selling by the age of 14. He managed to not only turn his life around but create immense success for himself and others. Johnny’s published works include bestseller From the Hood to Doing Good, and he has sold half a million printed copies in a combined effort across the globe.
Johnny regularly speaks for non-profit organizations and reunites children with their mothers whom they’ve been separated from for years due to government powers. He and his wife, Crystal, are co-founders of the non-profit Wimbrey WorldWide Ministries, which has built six schools in Central America and helped fund water purification systems in Africa.
How Johnny is using his personal story to impact others.
The value of having a coach in your life.
Johnny’s role models in storytelling and leadership.
What is means to craft an artful story.
The importance of getting permission from an audience.
253 Storytelling from the Heart – Robin Gelfenbien
As a leader and a storyteller, the temptation is to project yourself as strong and invulnerable. Today’s guest reveals the power of speaking and leading from the heart. You’ll learn how to inject fun and creativity into your speaking and better connect with others as a human being.
Robin Gelfenbien is a NYC-based storyteller, writer and comedian whose told stories alongside luminaries like Hannah Gadsby and Trevor Noah. She’s also a two-time Moth StorySLAM winner who has performed on PBS, RISK! and Mortified.
Robin is the Creator and Host of the storytelling series and podcast, “Yum’s the Word,” that features her homemade ice cream cakes. The show has been named a New York Times Critic’s Pick and guests have included Tim Gunn, Joy Behar and more.
What Robin calls herself the “Ambassador of Fun.”
Robin’s experience driving the Oscar Mayer Wienermobile, and what she learned from it.
How speaking from the heart makes you a good storyteller.
Robin’s storytelling and leadership role models.
The difference between a story and an anecdote.
Mistakes people make in sharing their story.
The best narrative talks Robin ever heard, and what she learned from them.
Storytelling and leadership are all about sharing—not only our stories, but who we are at our core. Today’s guest shares why this simple concept of generosity is so critical to great leadership and storytelling, and how to share more of yourself and your experiences with your audience.
Antesa Jensen is an emotional intelligence and human-centric innovation expert, specializing in evoking and conjuring the genius in others, potentiating personal and cultural entropy in organizations, and teaching leaders how to create brilliant teams through keynote speeches, bespoke transformational experiences, and 1:1 coaching.
How storytelling can help us embrace our collective humanity and generate massive amounts of empathy.
Why great storytellers are generous.
The language of the body and vibration, and how it is related to storytelling.
How Antesa visualized her appearance on a TED stage.
What makes a great storyteller and leader.
How to reframe failure as learning and change your own story.
The difference between being vulnerable and being raw.
Why your thoughts are not the same things as your feelings.